Guest Post- Jen & Kam from The Closet Narcissist

Hi there – we’re Jenarcissist and KameraWhore (the Narcissisters), and we’re the gals behind “the closet narcissist.” We were really excited to be paired up with Nnenna for our first ever guest posting opportunity from Ashley at Two Eyes in the Mirror. The mission of our blog is to promote and celebrate self-love…to remind you of how amazing you are! So we thought we would combine the fashion talk behind Nnenna’s blog with the self-image talk behind ours and explore how the way you dress can reflect, and sometimes enhance, the way you feel about yourself.

Of course, your real source of confidence should come from inside you, regardless of how you look. But let’s be honest; appearance matters to most, if not all, of us to an extent, and the way you present yourself to the world is often a reflection of how you see yourself…or perhaps how you would LIKE to be seen by the world or the kind of attitude you’d like to develop.
We thought we’d share with you a couple of outfits that make us personally feel confident.

Jen:

I usually feel at my most confident when I’m wearing a dress. There’s just something about the girliness and how great you can feel in a dress that really suits your body shape. But sometimes, at least for me, dressing up just isn’t comfortable. I unconsciously sit up straighter and feel more put together, and that can definitely add to my confidence level, but for an average, everyday look, I want to feel like I can put my feet up! So the outfit I’m sharing is really nothing especially creative, but it does have several confidence-inducing features, and I think the outfit pretty accurately portrays my personality for everyday…girly, fun, comfortable – and comfortable with myself!

First, the yellow shirt. I always feel more confident when I wear bright colors. The shirt is comfortable but still has a nice shape that’s a step above a T-shirt. It has ruching on the sleeves, which adds a little visual interest. My black jeggings are a fairly recent purchase; I had initially dismissed jeggings as something that would not flatter my body type and would feel uncomfortable, til I found these pull-ons at Wal-Mart…and I love them! Not only do I feel awesome when I wear them, but they’re also comfortable. Then you have the jean vest (which I got for about 3 bucks at a thrift store). When I wear it, it just makes me feel more fun; it’s not something I can really put my finger on. Then you have these cute floral wedges I got from Target. Okay, I admit they are not the most comfortable shoes on the planet, and they are even a little hard to walk in, so I wouldn’t wear them to stroll around town…but they’re very feminine and trendy and make me feel girly and stylish when I wear them. Last is my necklace. Kam and I have an online shop where we have 22 designs (so far) of self-love-boosting necklaces we make by hand. Whenever I wear the various designs, just knowing they’re there somehow courses the messages through my subconscious all day long. I find myself reaching up to touch them all the time without thinking about it, and every time I do, the message is reaffirmed again. We have messages like, “Stay Confident,” “I Don’t Have to be Perfect,” “Invincible,” etc. They’ve become integral parts of my outfits every single day. Sometimes I will wear one that has a message of how I WANT to feel that day, and before long, I do!

Kam:
I am a jeans girl through and through. My outfit is simple but the epitome of what makes me feel confident. My jeans are a skinny pair that I picked up at Old Navy several years back. My husband encouraged me to buy them even though I was worried I wouldn’t be able to pull them off. Three years later, and these jeans have cycled in and out of my go-to, feel-good pile of clothes. I tend to go through periods of time when I don’t feel like my body looks especially flattering in them. However, I am trying to overcome that, so recently, these jeans have made a comeback! They are nicely worn, quite slim-fitting, and they’re not low-rise, which can actually sometimes be more flattering.
My shirt is a recent purchase made at *gasp* Wal-Mart. Surprisingly, this store is actually starting to carry some cute items. This blouse is made by L.E.I. and was a steal on the clearance rack for $3. In my mind, it conveys a bit of a punk, rockabilly essence with its plaid pattern and ruffled accents. To me, this gives off a youthful vibe that I definitely want to hold onto. It also makes me feel like I appear as a creative, open-minded gal, which is truly who I am. I must admit that when I wear this shirt, I like to keep the top button undone. I rarely feel comfortable showing off my cleavage, but in this shirt, it makes me feel sexy to do so. I’m not sure why this is so, but it just feels okay in this particular blouse. I feel sexy and super confident about my body. Score!

We found this great blog post about wearing what fits you RIGHT NOW…no matter what your shape or size and despite the fact that you might wish to lose a few pounds. It’s important to dress for what your body looks like in the present moment and play to its strengths because it DOES have strengths. As Katie writes, when she was ashamed of her body and feeling that she was too heavy, she would either stuff herself into clothes that were too small (“part self-punishment for gaining weight, and part ‘motivation’ to lose it) or too big (“this allowed me to hide my body – and my shame – underneath layers”). Eventually, she embraced her body as it was and began dressing in a way that was more comfortable and more suited to her body type. When you do this, you’re naturally going to gain more confidence because you’ll see what a difference it makes.

If you want to portray a more confident self and therefore actually become more confident over time, you can do that partly by finding and defining a personal style that suits who you are, dressing to flatter your body type, taking good care of yourself, and wearing things that just make you feel good. And that certainly doesn’t have to equate to expensive.
And, just for fun since Nnenna posts such fabulous knitted creations, we thought we’d share with you Jenarcissist’s first ever crocheting project. It isn’t anything yet! But it’s full of promise, right?!

 

What does the way you dress say about you? Is it an accurate reflection of your personality? Does it reflect how you feel about yourself? 

Also, don’t forget to check out my guest post on The Closet Narcissist! :D

On Nnenna’s Needles #8

What’s better than cozying up with a good book and a soft blanket on a gray day? :)
Spiraling Star Blanket

 

I made this blanket for just such days, when I’m curled up on my little couch in my dorm room reading a novel.  It’s the perfect size to cover my lap and my feet and made from a soft wool blend.  I was of course immediately drawn to the star shape that radiates out from the center.  Also, due to some miscalculation on my part, I ran out of yarn at the end.  Luckily, I had some of this multicolored ribbon left over from some craft project, so I used that to finish it off and crochet a smooth edge around the border. 

On another note- in approximately one week I will be on spring break, returning to my sunny home state of CA!  Only two midterms and one paper stand in my way- let the countdown begin! :D

Looking Forward To…

Last week, we had a few days of really nice weather- sunny and around 50/60 degrees.  Of course this meant that I immediately started to pretend that spring had come, even though I knew better.  I went out with bare legs and wore my lighter coat!  I also created these sets, dreaming about how I would bare my legs in even warmer weather.  Today I drew back my curtains to discover that it had snowed again, so I’m just going to close my curtains and pretend it’s spring in my little room.

1. Linen Blend-Short w/ Striped Belt: $14.80- I love the navy color and crispness of these shorts, as well as the preppy striped belt that they come with.  Both would be great basic additions to my closet!
2. Tulip Romper: $12.50- I didn’t really jump on the romper trend last season because I was worried that they would look terrible on me.  Since then I’ve realized that it’s all about the fit, so I’m ready to try again, and what better romper to start with than this delightful, springy number? =)
3. Fab Denim Shorts: $10.50- Dark denim shorts at a really good price?  Yes, please!

1. Twelve Gore Skirt: $15.80- This is a very classic-looking skirt and I simply love the silver buttons going down the front.
2. Mid Striped Skirt: $16.80- I haven’t tried the midi length on my body (I’m still coming round to maxis!) but this skirt looked so good on the model that I just had to include it.  Plus, I really need some more stripes in my life!
3. Striped Ruffled Skirt: $16.80- Stripes! Fun! Summery!  Can it be mine, please? :D

 

1. Leatherette Gladiator Sandals: $23.80- I love how it laces up in the front (I’ve been really into my lace-up boots all winter!) and the zipper in the back is essential!
2. Braided Leatherette Sandals: $19.80- I really like the low wedge on these and the color would fill a gap in my shoes collection.
3. Canvas Mary Jane Flats: $16.80- Too. Cute. For. Words!
4. Double Ankle Strap Wedges: I think this give off a really cool, modern vibe and would look amazing paired with many a spring/summer dress!
5. Cutout Suedette Wedges: $26.80- The cutouts give the toesies a little breather/look cool and I really like the chunky heel.

Tell me- which of these picks do you like?
Happy President’s Day everyone! =)

Animal Kingdom

For today’s post, I teamed up with Anna from Visions of Memories to create an animal-print themed look.  We both chose something with animal print from our closets and made an outfit.  I thought it would be a great time to show off this leopard-print sweater that I thrifted from Saver’s.

black sweater and belt- forever 21, leopard sweater-
thrifted (Saver’s), jeggings- Plato’s Closet, boots- GoJane

This sweater used to be a little bit longer and before I could wear it with leggings, but unfortunately I’m pretty sure it shrunk in the dryer.  I definitely wanted to wear it belted, but it looked dumb belted on its own, so I threw the black sweater on top.  The neckline is a little high and it also has these side slits that I don’t love, so if I ever get around to it I might try to alter it.  Regardless, I love the print and it was a steal at under $5!

I’ve been furiously knitting the past few days, working on one of my projects for Pay it Forward 2011 and tomorrow I’m off to Joann’s to get some supplies.  I also picked up some lovely pearly pink yarn that I’m eventually going to use to make a cardigan for myself.  I’m so excited about the stuff I’m knitting right now, which is the way it has to be otherwise I’ll never complete the project!  So I’m hoping to spend the weekend being crafty and finishing up the project I’m currently working on so that I can send it out early next week.  What will you guys be up to this weekend?  Happy Friday :D

Oh, and don’t forget to check out Visions of Memories later today to see her outfit!