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A couple weeks ago, I had a bit of a reality check. A coworker dropped by my cube to chat and she said, “How are you? Stressed?” I was so surprised by that question! I think of myself as a pretty mellow person and I don’t think I get stressed easily. However, when she said that, I took a step back and realized that I was a bit stressed. As much as you’d like to think you have it all under control, sometimes that to do list is overwhelming. I think it’s natural for everyone to feel stressed from time to time and it was good for me to admit it to myself. There are a few things that I like to do when I’m feeling like it’s all a bit too much:

Get organized. I’m a total nerd about organization. When thoughts are going a million miles a minute in my head, it helps me to get them out on paper. I love making lists and I like to see exactly what I need to tackle. Once I’ve made my list, sometimes it’s good to just start at the top and work my way down. If I keep staring at the number of things on the list, I may never get started, so sometimes it’s useful to just start at the top or pick one task that I know that I can easily accomplish. At other times, there are tasks that are time-sensitive or are much more important, so I’ll prioritize those.

– Get a manicure. And by get, I really mean give. Giving myself an at-home manicure is part of my weekly Sunday ritual. I find the process so soothing and when I have freshly painted nails, I feel like I’m much more capable. It doesn’t have to be a manicure, but the idea here is to do something for yourself that makes you feel good. Then, when you’re a bit more relaxed, you can get back to checking off that list.

– Escape for a bit. Through a book, through TV, by talking a walk outside- whatever works for you. When I want to turn my brain off, I usually pull up one of my TV shows and watch a couple episodes. Sometimes it gets to the point where worrying about the things you have to do is actually making you less productive, so it’s good to switch focus for a bit and give your mind a little rest.

– Call your person. One of my favorite things about the show Grey’s Anatomy was the friendship between Meredith and Cristina. If you don’t watch the show, Meredith and Cristina are BFFs and they’re there for each other no matter what. They’ve had their ups and downs, but they’ve stuck together through the best and worst of times. The point is, sometimes you need to call that one person who knows you really well and can offer you good advice and/or tough love, if necessary. I usually like to keep things to myself and mull them over, but every once in a while I do need to talk things out and get them off my chest. Your person may not really be able to help, but sometimes all you need is a sympathetic ear.

I’d love to hear about what you like to do when you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed. As always, I’m looking forward to the weekend. We’re supposed to be getting faster Internet installed (fingers crossed that they actually show up when they say they’re going to) and I can’t wait for that. It will make blogging (and life in general) a lot easier. I hope you all have a great weekend!

(image via. I couldn’t find the original source for this one- let me know if you know it!)

On February 20, 2015 · 10 Comments · In Life
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I haven’t done one of these posts in a while! In this series, I round up a few things that have caught my eye during my nightly sessions browsing the web. Usually these don’t fit into one nice, neat category, but I like to share these finds with you from time to time. Today we have…

– the Kate Spade Saturday and West Elm collaboration. This seems like a perfect marriage to me. Kate Spade Saturday has the best prints and they translate really well into home decor. My favorite print from the collection is the one pictured above- it’s so bright and cheerful.

Everlane’s striped tees. I own a couple Everlane tees and they’re both great. They’re quite soft and they’ve held up well through many washes. I really like Everlane and what the company stands for. I think I’ll be able to lift my self-imposed spending ban soon and there are several Everlane pieces that I have my eye on. I particularly love the look of this striped shirt. I already have several striped tees, but I love the effortlessness of this one. I know the quality of Everlane tees is great and I know that if I bought this tee, I would live in it.

– this kitty pouch from J. Crew. Crazy cat ladies unite. This pouch is so cute. Definitely not something I need, but I think I would make a cute makeup bag or something like that. I’m watching this and if it goes on sale, I might have to get it.

– the Sephora Formula X Sheer Strength nail polishes. I currently own one Formula X polish and I like it. The color is gorgeous, but the formula is a bit thicker than what I normally like. Recently I saw these sheer strength nail polishes. Usually I want my nail polish color to stand out, but I like the idea of these sheer colors that also act as nail strengtheners. I think it might be good when I want to give my nails a bit of a break, but I don’t want to leave them bare. If you’ve tried any of the Formula X polishes, let me know what you think of them (image via).

On February 18, 2015 · 14 Comments · In Shopping
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A while back I read an article on Medium called “A Teenager’s View on Social Media.” In this piece, the writer breaks down his views on several of the most popular social networks. As I was reading, I found myself nodding along and agreeing with him. Over the years, I’ve come to realize that I love social media. This is a bit strange because I consider myself to be an introvert. You’d think someone like me would not want to share bits of their life on the internet. However, I think I enjoy social media so much because it allows me to have interactions with other people within the privacy of my own space. I’ve always preferred writing to speaking and through social media I’m able to share little excerpts of my life. Let’s talk about the main social networks that I use:


Facebook is like that relative you begrudgingly talk to from time to time because they’re family, but if you weren’t related you’d have nothing to do with them. I rarely use my personal Facebook. The few times I do go on, I scroll through my news feed and then I have to log off, because I just can’t. I have a Facebook page for my blog which I update whenever there’s a new post, but I’m wondering if it’s really worth it. I think most people who read this blog use other methods of keeping up, so I’m not sure if it’s worth updating my Facebook page? I don’t find that I have a lot of interaction there and since I don’t really like Facebook, I’m not inclined to interact there myself.


I resisted Twitter for a while because I didn’t understand it, but I’ve been using it for the past few years and it’s become one of my favorite forms of social media. When I wake up in the morning, I check both of my Twitter feeds (I have a separate one for my bookish pursuits). I check it any time I’m on break at work and when I’m home I always have my Twitter tab open. On the Twitter mobile app, I don’t like feeling like I’ve missed things and I wish Twitter would automatically update from the last time you had the app open, instead of leaving a gap of a few hours. Honestly, I get most of my news from Twitter these days and I think it’s actually made me more aware of current events. I think people can be hilarious on twitter and I like live-tweeting television or award shows. It’s great for having quick conversations with people or sharing interesting things I find on the Internet.


Instagram is battling Twitter right now for the #1 spot on this list. I feel like you can really get to know someone through the snapshots they share on Instagram. For some of my old high school friends, Instagram is the way we keep in touch and it’s nice to see what they get up to. I’ve definitely had feelings of Instagram envy (who hasn’t?), particularly right now as it seems like everyone is on a warm weather vacation. Those thoughts are fleeting though and on the whole I think Instagram is great. I’ve been neglecting my Instagram a bit lately (winter has left me a bit uninspired), but I want to get back to posting regularly. Sometimes it feels weird to stop and snap a picture of something in public. I want to get over that though because I like capturing those moments and keeping a visual diary.


My friend was an early adopter and she sent me an invite to Pinterest. When I got the email, I thought it was spam and deleted it. After furthering prodding from my friend, I eventually signed up and it’s become such a useful tool. I use it to keep track of recipes I’d like to try, places I want to visit, clothes I want to buy, makeup products on my wish list- basically everything. I used to keep folders all over the place, but it’s so much easier now that they’re all consolidated into one place. I will say that as Pinterest is changing as it grows bigger and I’m not sure that I’m loving all of the promoted and suggested pins. I really only want to see pins from the people I’ve chosen to follow.


I feel a bit behind on this one- I think the younger generations have been using it for a year or more. I finally downloaded Snapchat at the beginning of the year and I’m slowly figuring it out. There’s always that transition period with new platforms where you have no idea what you’re doing and that’s where I am right now. Based on my limited experience, it seems to be an unfiltered Instagram and I like that. You can add captions and MS Paint-style squiggles, but there are no filters and you can’t really edit your pictures (or maybe you can and I just don’t know how to?). The point is, Instagram has become so stylized and posed (which I don’t entirely hate, because I like looking at pretty pictures as much as the next person), but Snapchat feels likes it’s more IRL since you have to be using the app to snap a picture or video. If you’ve been using Snapchat, let me know your tips and if you’d like to add me, my username is starcrossedsmil.

I think it’s true that I’ve become a bit addicted to social media. I’m better at disconnecting on the weekends, but during the weekdays I’m usually staying up an extra 30 minutes or so to check all of my feeds before I go to bed. Must power down. Anyways, let me finally wrap up this long post. I’d love for you to tell me your views on social media and/or which site you like the most!

(image via Death to Stock Photo, handwriting by me)

On February 13, 2015 · 25 Comments · In Life
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When I was scrolling through my Twitter feed and saw Léa Seydoux’s dress, I had to do a double-take. I think her yellow dress (and the whole look, really) is so dreamy. A few years ago, yellow was one of my least favorite colors, but at some point that changed. I actually painted my walls pale yellow a couple years ago- talk about a change of opinion! Now I think of yellow as such a happy color and in these dreary winter days it feels like a breath of fresh air.

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Top image via W Magazine. 01. Bank Of Me textured-leather pouch 02. Zip pencil skirt 03. Backless chiffon dress 04. Pleated tulle skirt 05. Long-sleeved blouse 06. Rose stud 07. Selma mini textured-leather shoulder bag

On February 11, 2015 · 18 Comments · In Shopping, Style
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